Question #3: What makes someone kind? How could you be kinder this year?
Whoo boy...this is a loaded question...or rather, a loaded answer. I'm not looking ahead at these questions. Perhaps I ought to be so I can think on these before blogging...but...oh well. This is what I started. We'll just keep on keeping on without a long and deep thought process.
To the first part...what makes someone kind...
The first thing that came to my mind was telling my daughters it doesn't hurt them to smile at people. So smile. It doesn't hurt to say hi...it doesn't hurt to be nice...
It might not be fun...but it doesn't hurt me as a person to be kind.
When I am acknowledged. A nod, a wave, a greeting, a smile, high five...whatever. Just acknowledge my existence. In a positive way.
When they remember something about me. Shows they pay attention and put forth the energy to actually remember it. AND...then they acted on it by letting me know.
When they go out of their way to do something for me...or just doing something even if it's not out of their way... No one has to do anything for me, but how nice when they do...
Sometimes, it's nice to be given something. On Wednesday, a lady gave me a late birthday present. She said it wasn't much... I opened it and was delighted! Still am. I needed something. This has been a long hard week...and I needed something. This "little something" was just perfect. And she didn't have to do that. How nice!
Kindness is just being decent. Minding one's manners. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Looking at a situation from their viewpoint, or if one can't, then just accepting that there might be another viewpoint...different doesn't mean wrong. Kindness is learning that skill of empathy. And using it. Seeing the good in people. Seeing the worth in everyone. Giving without expectation of anything being given in return.
Just be nice.
The second part of today's question...how can I be kinder this year...?
*arm raised and waving*
I know! I know!!!
Well...I can quit my griping. I can just do and accept that I'm doing. Be grateful for the life I have that makes it so I can. I can just shut my mouth.
And make more cookies and bread for people.
Shut my mouth. Bake. Share.
That's the basics. I know where I fall short. I try to be kind...but I can do better. In my head and in my heart. And shut my mouth.
Know what the really cool thing is? I can completely go to Heavenly Father in prayer and have a conversation about me and my mouth. Me and my attitude. And he hears. He understands. He has a great deal of patience for me. He gives me more growing opportunities than I like, but...that's okay. He wants me to be happy...I just need to get in line with his plan...
And kindness is part of that. I've been having the primary song going in my head while I've sat here typing:
I want to be kind to everyone for that is right you see... So I say to myself, remember this... Kindness begins with me...
Then there's that great commandment: Love one another as I have loved you.
Jesus was kind.
Almost all of us can be kinder.